“You have the power to heal your life, and you need to know that.

We think so often that we are helpless, but we’re not. We always have the power of our minds…Claim and consciously use your power.”

Louise L. Hay.

We all have what it takes to lead our life completely and with full potential. We are designed by the creator to be a complete package. Then why do we self-sabotage our journey?

The human mind and body are a potent combination and we can use it for us or against us anytime. Quoting Ketki Gokhale, who was our guest for the episode of Soul Sunday series of my podcast show Soul Crafting with Tanushree, She quoted this from the Vedas where Lord Krishna said-

“Our mind can become our friend or enemy. We only have the power to control what goes within us and not outside.”

Do we have the capability to pull the rope and tame the chattering monkey mind? Most likely we turn it against ourselves, belittling ourselves and being in regret and remorse and depriving ourselves of self-love.

“I am too fat, too thin, too shy, too scared, too angry, I am not intelligent, I am not so beautiful, I am not as talented, I am not healthy, I can’t dance, I can’t swim, I can’t drive, I cant paint,” etc.

How many times per day and through our lives have we said these statements and made them a reality? We wish positivity for others then what stops us from saying it to ourselves. Yes, self-worth plays an important role here and self-worth should not be connected to how much one is financially capable. Women in difficult, abusive situations are unable to take that step forward due to a lack of confidence, financial dependence, and low self-worth. Agree, it is easier said than done. How do we overcome this then?

Take baby steps!

The first step towards self-love is HEALING SELF. Self-love plays a huge role for us and healing oneself comes before it. Even in my book – “Bring out that Red Lipstick”, my first & lengthiest chapter is about self-love.

Now you may ask,”How can a broken me love myself?” 

The capability to heal ourselves lies with us. We have all the resources within us. The need is to explore our inner realms to fish out that exact potential that we need. And challenges that we face in life mirror exactly that.

What is self-love?

Is it being selfish, or narcissism? 

How can you practise self-love? 

We always have choices. Let me share this thought-provoking, inspiring story about Jerry.

Jerry was the kind of guy you love to hate. He was always in a good mood and always had something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, “If I were any better, I would be twins!” 
 
He was a unique manager because several waiters had followed him around from restaurant to restaurant. The reason was his attitude. He was a natural motivator. Jerry was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation if they were having a bad day. 
 
Someone asked –I don’t get it! You can’t be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?” Jerry replied, “Each morning I wake up and say to myself, Jerry, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood. I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life.” 
 
“Yeah, right, it’s not that easy,” said the man. “Yes, it is,” Jerry said. “Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations or how people will affect your mood. It’s your choice to be in a good mood or a bad mood. The bottom line: It’s your choice how you live life.” The man reflected on what Jerry said.  

Several years later, he heard that Jerry had left the back door open one morning and was held up at gunpoint by three armed robbers. While trying to open the safe, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him. Luckily, Jerry was found relatively quickly and rushed to the local trauma centre. After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body. 
 
The man met Jerry 6 months later & asked him how he was, he said, “If I were any better, I’d be twins. Wanna see my scars?” He asked him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place.

“The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door,” Jerry replied. “Then, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live, or I could choose to die. I chose to live. “Weren’t you scared? Did you lose consciousness?” he asked. Jerry continued, “The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the emergency room and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read, ‘He’s a dead man.” I knew I needed to take action.” 
 
“What did you do?” I asked. “Well, there was a big, burly nurse shouting questions at me,” said Jerry. “She asked if I was allergic to anything. ‘Yes,’ I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, ‘Bullets!’ Over their laughter, I told them, “I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead.” 
 
Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude! 

Check your words. Words are powerful!

Our Self-talk is doing us more harm than good. The law of attraction is not automatic! It needs serious work too. Working on yourself to become the best version of yourself, healing your body and mind is essential to focus on your soul’s growth. 

The words you choose in the NOW are important. They are affirmations. Anything that you say good or bad is affirmations. The more you reiterate the weaknesses, they become larger. You slip into a victim mentality. The more you reiterate the good, they become larger too. You enter into an empowered zone. Have you made your choice?

Using affirmations is being conscious and taking responsibility for yourself. State clearly what you want. Change your personal conversations.  

If you have been saying –

• Nobody loves me – you turn it into an assertion – I am shining the light of love for everyone else.

• I am too fat, thin, shy, scared, angry – I am a person with excess weight which I can easily shed. 

• I am radiating positivity. 

• I am accepted as I am and enjoying meeting new people. 

Louise Hay’s writings and they have been transformational for me. Sharing an excerpt from Louise Hay’s  writings: 

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